Too Much Too Soon
They are talking about getting married and having children on date number 1 or 2. If this gets you nervous or is simply a turn off, tell them so. Most people find these topics to be overly serious for the first few dates. When getting to know someone it can send the wrong message and send the date running for the hills. Anyone these days committing this offense is not very aware. Given all the free dating advice available online and off there is no excuse to bring up this topic too soon.
Nervousness is normal but slapstick comedy-type nervousness is not attractive no matter how likeable the person might otherwise be. If they’re tipping over glasses, shaking like a leaf, and sweating profusely how would they handle things like being introduced to your family or a wedding if it got that far?
They may find you very attractive but have low self-esteem feeding into the nervousness. This is a date, not a romantic comedy. Try your best to put them at ease and get them talking about themselves. This usually gets people to open up and relax a bit. If not, it’s simply up to you to decide if you’ll give them another chance.
I Shouldn’t Judge But…
If they show up wearing revealing, sloppy, or stained clothes, they don’t care how they present themselves to you or anyone else. It’s good that you know upfront but you’d want better for yourself and them, right? Some people think they are more attractive by revealing more flesh or wearing very tight clothes. Others feel that sloppy clothing or stains should be overlooked. The problem is on dates, people take into account everything that’s presented. If these offenses give you reason for pause, choose to pause the relationship. Read more about dating.